Are you the kind of person that gives someone the benefit of the doubt? Not to say that people should not be given a chance. But I do because I am nice. Nice to the point of fault. What do I mean fault? Could I have read between the lines sooner when I chose to date someone? Could I have seen the red flags and made a decision quicker to see that they are just not the right one? Could I have avoided heart ache after heart ache if I paid attention more to the signs and ended it sooner? I saw the signs, thought about them, felt them, lost my power to them and chose to give them the benefit of the doubt. What happened? Am I too nice and do I not guard my heart enough? Someone once told me I had a light aura around me that they have never seen before. People are drawn in and try to emulate my light. They hang with me for a while but they cannot keep the facade up before their true colors come out. If only I had seen, paid attention to or guarded my heart against the signs and their true color, I would have saved myself some heart ache alot sooner. Whether it is light that is the attraction or how nice I am, I now know that giving someone the benefit of the doubt also requires paying “attention to the intention”. Here are some questions that I can ask myself when I start paying attention.
Is this serving me?
Is this caring to me?
Is this loving towards me?
Is this kind to me?
Am I uplifted by this?
Is this extending freedom to me?
Does this feel manipulative?
Can I share this with others?
If I say no to even one, I cut it off pretty quickly. Can you give someone the benefit of the doubt only up until the point that you see their true colors? Can you pay ‘attention to their intention’ and ask the questions that will serve you best in the end? Can you end it quickly to avoid future heart ache?
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