When do we know when we have gone too far or not far enough in a relationship? Here is what I discovered that may change the way you think of how you handle yourself when you are courting, dating or in a relationship. BUT FIRST, my feed on Facebook is contantly bombaring me with these sponsored ads that contain titles like, What Men Secretly Want But Will Never Tell You or Why Men Pull Away or Catch Him and Keep Him and my all time favorite, Ugly Mistakes Women Make that Ruins Any Chance of a Relationship. “OH MY GOSH!” Can you hear me say that? As if it is my fault!
I learned a valuable lesson on feelings today. That lesson shook me to my core. If I am with someone that I like to be with and something rasies a red flag like a dude checking out all the women in the room while we are together or he tells me he does not have time for me but wants to get together when HE can, I know that does not feel good to me. It does not raise my spirits or make me feel like the woman I know I am. So I am AWARE of how that feels. If it does not keep my vibration high, honestly why would I bother to stick around. Do we really need to know why men pull away or what “mistakes” we make that ruin a relationship? OR can we just look inside ourselves and ask the question, “how does he make me feel?”
I know I have gone too far in a relationship when I have compromised myself, my thoughts in my head get the better of me, I compare myself to others and I have lost who I am as a woman. It does not make me feel good and my worthiness is low.
When have I not gone far enough in a relationship? Now! Because now I am aware of my feelings. If I feel the low vibration occuring meaning, what he just did or said did not make me feel great, either I will gracefully bail out or address with him what does not feel good to me. If the guy complies, then we move closer if not, then I will end it because if I don’t feel good in the beginning, chances are he is not the one for me. These sponsored ads lead us to believe that we need to change in order to get a man. In reality, we don’t need to change at all. We just need to tap into our feelings and become aware if we feel good with him or not. Then make the decision. Because what men secretly want or anyone for that matter is to feel soooo good in a realtionship that it is no secret at all!