I “love” this time of year as I can reflect on all of the accomplishments and victories that transpired in my personal and professional life. Man, it was a rough one but a year full of love. I used to question love and if I would ever find it. I still do but I can tell you that within all the forms that love can take on the most important one is loving yourself. Truly love can conquer all…only if YOU can love YOURSELF first. This is the ticket to your self-worth and the beauty within that you possess.
Now you may ask yourself, “how do I love myself?” It may sound ironic and silly but here is what I did and still do. I took the inner child of mine (mine is 7 years old) and started with her because she is the one that provides the chatter in my head. The “chatter” or negative thoughts that decrease my self-worth and confidence. And why does that happen? It stems from my past circumstances and belief systems. I was listening to too many people shape and mold my thoughts, words, and actions into what they wanted me to be instead of me listening to my own thoughts, words and actions and trusting myself. So what I used to do with my inner child is tell her to be quiet, simmer down and ignore her. It was important to me to replace the old negative chatter and convert them into more positive thoughts. That sounds like the current thing to do these days, right? But really she wants you to hear her and acknowledge her. So listen and guess what? She feels so insecure and not worthy that she really wants YOU to help her feel secure and important! Because at the end of the day, no one and I mean NO ONE will make you feel that way. We can only depend on a small fraction of people to keep us in check but guess what? If we don’t show up with that inner child feeling loved, secure and supported whatever circumstance you are in at that time, you will wind up with the chatter and low self-worth that is killing your spirit, your relationships and everything you want in your life. Where is your inner child showing up in your life to bring awareness to the chatter? How can you help tame her? Love her! Support her and let her know that you are there to take care of her unconditionally. It’s that simple! Start right now and tell her how important she is to you and you value all that she is. I cannot begin to tell you how that has saved me in all environments in my life but especially in the relationship arena. I am so close to finding love but the true love is within me, within my heart and soul and with my beautiful inner child. Don’t start 2017 with a goal, start it with loving yourself and everything else in your life will flow.